Listen up people! We’re failing our children. So many of our youth are are being raised by single parents and grandparents. Many more are being raised by violent video games and the internet. They’ve become de-sensitized to death and destruction, separation and abandonment.
Yes, I know that sometimes ‘life’ happens and often single mothers are forced to care for their children. Fathers disappear or walk out, or the fathers may be physically present but emotionally distant. I am seeing a generation of children that is being raised by single parent households.
“Though I was mentally and physically exhausted, sleep was the furthest thing from my mind. Seventeen-years-old, charged with armed robbery with the use of a firearm and hijacking a Viking Freight truck. My mother had to know of the arrest by now. It had probably traumatized her beyond all possible repair. She depended on me for so much, and I was once reliable and aspired to have the integrity that she tried her best to instill in all five of her children. I refused to visualize how my mother’s face looked the second she heard of my arrest. I would rather die.” (GMan: The Education of a Criminal)
Yes, my mother raised five of us kids on her own. She worked hard at making ends meet and trying to instill in us responsibility, respect, and dignity. It wasn’t easy for her. She depended on me, but I let her down when I was arrested for theft at the age of 17. My father wasn’t present in our lives, even though he lived a short distance away. Mama did her best, though.
I know that it is sometimes unavoidable being a single parent to kids. I also know that I have much respect for those parents who work hard at 1, 2, or sometimes 3 jobs to care for their families. I respect that. However, it took two people to bring the lives of children into the world…and it’s time to step up to the plate and put the needs of our children first. Would my life have turned out differently if my father had stayed? Would I have avoided prison if he had been present and attentive to our needs? Possibly.
They say it takes a village to raise a child, but it starts in the home.
I believe it is time for a course correction. As I grow in faith and understanding, I become aware of the soul needs of others. I’m not looking for a pat on the back, I’m just trying to make a difference!